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THE OTHER WOMAN: "Mistresses,
Jumpoffs, Whores & Bustdowns"
I've been posting a bit more relationship
garbage lately...because it seems like errywhere
I turn...ppl are like Girl listen 2 what happen
...so I do..haha. I was reading some he gave me
herpes junk material in the Onion last night and
my best friend (white girl Tammie) sends me this
.....a reply received from 1 of my post
on a site I write 4, let's call it ..
"The Guilt Line".
I usually don’t post anything in the comments
section but I have to speak for the women
who are happy being the other woman, the jump off,
the sideline, if you will. One of my best friends
asked me why I continue to sleep with this guy
knowing he has a girlfriend and this is what I told her….
I’m a 23 year old chick who has her sh*t together
. Might sound vain but really its true. Going to
school about to graduate in June of 09, got my own
spot, my own car and a damn good job. Unfortunately,
I was once sidetracked by love and it almost
ruined my life. I almost lost everything I had
and was working for. The man I loved didn’t
give a f*ck about me. I was just as dumb as
Kim Porter is when it comes to Diddy. Swearing
up and down my boyfriend was my real life
Mr.. Big. Lol at myself!! “I’m his main chick
so f*ck the other b*tches!” I’m the one he
bought a ring for and took on a trip to Hawaii
but I was also the one who got dogged out the
most outta all the rest of the h*es. All you
so-called wifey’s, girlfriends, and main’s
might not wanna admit this but you’re getting
done wrong and you’re not even happy. Which
is why I’m now the other woman, his mistress,
the jump-off, if you will. Call it what you
want but I’m happy with an occasional f*ck,
dinner, a couple shoes and no emotions involved.
Bran….well, lets just call him Josh,
is a win-win situation. I don’t have
to worry about why he didn’t call me
back last night. With Josh I don’t argue
or fight. He’s not my man, he’s just
my f*ck buddy so that aint my job to worry
about where he been all night. I get the
benefits of having a boyfriend
(with the great sex, great convo’s and dinner)
and the benefits of not having a boyfriend
(no drama, no embarrassment, no shared accounts)
. Which is why I don’t believe that men are the
only ones who can benefit from this type of
“relationship”. This might sound harsh but
hell no I don’t feel guilty for having sex
with Josh! I don’t want to take him from her,
I just borrow him from time to time.
Believe it or not I feel sorry for Josh’s
girlfriend and I sometimes wonder if she
knows he’s cheating; Though I doubt if she
found out I would care. In society, people
make us believe that women can’t do what men
do. Yes we can(Vote Obama 08′) and we do it
better! And your absolutely right, there are
no male “hoes”, “mistresses”, or “jump-off’s”
but I be damned if I’m labeled as one just
because I wanna get my swerve on! I don’t
feel the least bit guilty for nothing I do.
And even though Kelis is one weird ass chick she
said, “I’m the author of the only dictionary that
defines me.” And that’s real talk. (is it?)
I’ll take my “chicken pass” right now
because my first reaction was “Girl I
feel you!”. And no I don’t condone being
a “jump, mistress, other woman, etc” however,
the commenter made some very valid points on
why most women choose to play “The Other Woman”
role. To be honest, the first guy I’ve ever
dated (and loved) was TAKEN!
(I was 17 so bare with me) I didn’t give a
damn about those occasional weekends he
spent with his girlfriend because when he
was with me, he made me feel as though
I was his main chick. When I was fresh
out of college, my mentality was “why
would i want to be “the woman” when she’s
being lied to and cheated on while “the other woman”
is being told the truth and has a good idea
where her “borrowed man” is when he’s not
with her. (although I doubt she cares).
The Other woman reaps the benefits and rewards
and then sends the man home to his woman who
has to deal with all the upkeep of a relationship
(cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids
& mad drama).
Don’t get it twisted, this was my thought
process years ago. I haven’t borrowed a man
in ages (that was over 10 years ago) and I
know better now. I be damned if I come home
to my hooptie sitting on cement blocks just
because I’ve screwed someone’s man…And when
there is a family involved (marriage, kids, etc)
I definitely wouldn’t touch it. Ironically,
most women that are being cheated on in their
relationship has played “The Other Woman” at
some point in their life. Karma is a b*tch…
but what do you think...Ladies:
"do we all feel this way sometimes or is
the sideline not 4 real players"?
(Disclaimer: by no means do I condone,
tripping on or @ a mans, home, job, or, car..
.just leave him...(((period)))---- )
Labels:
bustdowns,
mistress,
relationship,
whores
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